Dad Learns Son Is Secretly Wearing His Sister’s Clothing & Makeup. Reddit Gave Him The Best Advice – SheKnows

The father of a boy who sneaks into his sister’s bed room to put on her clothes and make-up wanted recommendation from Reddit after his spouse stated he was being unfair.

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Writing to Reddit’s “Am I The A**gap” part, the dad defined of his 10-year-old son, “He’s all the time been fairly female and that’s advantageous, he’s who he’s.” But recently, his daughter, 14, has complained that “her make-up is all tousled and her garments are lacking” and the plain suspect is her brother.  
The boy admitted to the conduct, which the OP (authentic poster) informed him to cease doing. But his spouse stated he was being “unreasonable” since their son was “clearly going by a interval of expression.”
“I’ll admit I don’t like my son sporting make-up and clothes however that’s not the purpose and I wouldn’t admit that to him or anybody,” wrote the dad. “The level is he shouldn’t be going into his sister’s room and taking her stuff, or damaging her make-up, particularly not with out her permission. If he desires his personal stuff he should purchase it together with his allowance like his sister does.”
The OP added that he was not holding their son to a unique normal than he would a daughter, opposite to his spouse’s opinion that sisters normally share with one another. “I preserve I’m proper in respecting my daughter’s boundaries. AITA?”
“NTA,” somebody declared. “Suggest he performs together with his mother’s make-up. Let’s see how chill she is with him messing all of it up then” including, “Realistically although, you’re gonna have to seek out a way of getting him his personal make-up to play with … you’re on the stage the place you get to decide on what sort of recollections he at some point has of you again when he was figuring himself out.”
Someone replied, “‘You can’t put on make-up’ is homophobic. ‘You can’t put on Rebecca’s make-up’ shouldn’t be. It’s instructing him to respect different folks’s issues.”
The OP responded, “Thank you for this. That’s precisely the form of dad I need to be. I do know I’m not fairly there but however I’m going to work on it, as a result of it doesn’t matter what my little one does or doesn’t grow to be, he’s my little one at the beginning and I’ve an obligation to like and help him.”
Someone congratulated the daddy for “instructing your son boundaries, whether or not he likes to put on female garments and make-up or not” including, “‘Sisters share’ is essentially the most BS excuse in existence, normally in favor of the golden little one whereas the opposite sister will get every little thing stolen. If you need to compromise, get your son a make-up set of his personal, maybe some garments that he prefers to put on. If it makes your son comfortable to put on a costume or a skirt and use some mascara, it isn’t hurting anybody.”
And these with expertise denied that sisters usually share willingly: “My sister and I by no means shared clothes, neither of us needed to and that was advantageous” and “As a lady with a sister, they completely DO NOT share … sisters struggle about actually every little thing and private belongings are a degree of significant rivalry.” One stated, “My sisters used to carry me down and squeeze lemons into my mouth after they caught me messing with their issues. I might’ve beloved this magical sharing world that OP’s spouse appears to dwell in.”
Dad beloved the recommendation to take his son buying or give him his sister’s hand-me-down clothes and reminders that sharing make-up may be unhygienic. And we love him for each supporting his daughter’s proper to privateness and his son’s gender expression. Great job!
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